AH! I found a point. Romantic and sexual attraction are just the tip of (hopefully!!!) very large icebergs. Discounting falling in lust as this is an entirely different topic, the factors that go into romantic and sexual attraction are multitude. These factors dovetail, or even originate, from more general feelings of attraction, aka as friendship.
- They are super smart
- They geek
- They are an artist
- They care until it hurts
- They are modest
- They dance
- They are diverse in their interests and outlooks
- They have diverse friendships
- They are both demure and naughty
- They have neat fashion sense
- They are sensitive
- They care about animals
- They dream
And there are more... these are the ones that come to mind.
There are many factors supersede the physical aspects of attraction, which can be quite nice also. In fact, the non-physical factors are what cement my feelings. There are so many attractive people in the world. The people we find attractive, and perhaps move onto romantic relationships with, have so much more going on than the sexual and the romantic.